Educating a Baby to Grow into an 'English Gentleman' – Is It Worth the Cost?

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The company behind the advert claims that what seems like "luxury or oddity" is in fact "intentional commitment in initial education".

"Parents based in North London seeks an exceptional and experienced tutor to assist their youngest child on his early path to growing into an British gentleman."

Upon seeing this listing, you might easily overlook the phrase "initial stages" as simple a turn of phrase.

But, it might be the most important element of this unique job advert, as it seeks to find a mentor for a 12-month-old.

Many of responses have already been submitted since the anonymous family published their request for the £180,000 per year tutor, who has to be "a uniquely qualified person".

During the past few weeks, the post has gained interest in the news, with several asking why?

Progressive Approach

A tutoring expert, chief executive of a global tutoring firm, which is assisting the family in their quest, explained that in spite of early doubt, he viewed the idea "far sighted", and "innovative".

When he met the family, he said they recognized the atypical nature of their demand, and how young their son is.

Nevertheless, they stated that they "were unwilling to delay any longer" to engage a tutor, as they had held off until their firstborn was five, and by that age "cultural influence had by then become established".

What exactly did the family indicate by "cultural leaning"?

It's "everything", Adam replied. "The manner you eat, the way you speak".

He explained the firstborn had absorbed "extremely delicate, non-verbal cues" from the family, and had assumed their cultural habits. The family explained to him they did not want history to repeat itself with their younger child.

The strategy: To engage a UK tutor, who needs to speak with standard English accent, to influence the baby from day one.

Tutoring discussion
The education firm say the advert has initiated a broader discussion about how families regard learning, elitism and the part of cultural environment in learning.

Natural Absorption

"A great deal of the education at the outset here is rather absorbed naturally," explained Adam.

It's through this natural absorption that the family are aiming the child will acquire the British traits they aim to cultivate.

Adam noted the tutor had to be an individual who went to "the right kinds of schools – comparable categories of schools as the family hope to send their son to".

"The educator simply needs to be the suitable individual, they'll be carrying out things they aren't even aware they're doing, just naturally," he said.

Money No Object

The family explained to the expert the successful candidate should ideally also have familiarity of or enthusiasm in riding, winter sports, creative fields and musical activities so as to inspire the child in a wide range of passions.

Furthermore though, he explained the family desired the tutor to register the child on a range of lessons so the child would be "pony-riding and picking up an instrument by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's perspective, helping their son become a "British gentleman" will lead to achievement and open doors.

"Considering the advantages and disadvantages of that, because it's definitely a social class indicator," he adds.

However, notwithstanding all this guidance in "English culture", might the child pick up alleged cultural influence from the international family he is raised by anyway?

"Certainly", replied he. "They realize this could fail, but they've simply adopted the perspective of, 'let's give it a go and let's go as soon as we can', because the expense of it is not a concern," he said.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

There are some in the private teaching field who share these reservations.

Peter Cui, head and founder of an educational organization, who provides personal educators, wrote that "the development of becoming bicultural, or in fact, forming one's identity, is something that must be experienced personally, not designed."

The expert wrote that he had relocated from China to the United Kingdom at the period of 7 years old, and had been raised understanding and embodying two backgrounds. He went on to be educated at a prestigious UK institution.

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The educator was the first person originating from the People's Republic of China to be selected to the post of Finance Head of the Cambridge Union Society.

"The notion that a single person can act as a embodiment of English culture, a person who can possibly transplant the attributes of a British gentleman onto a infant child, strikes me as naive and unrealistic," he wrote.

"Based on my background, having a typically UK tutor from early childhood will does not necessarily achieve the goal they hope for.

"I wasn't provided with such a figure, and nevertheless I have been privileged enough to live many of the situations they hope for their son."

He continued: "The truth is, self-identity cannot be forced from the external environment; it must be selected, and it must come from within."

Acquiring Englishness

Naturally, UK identity is something the CEO thinks can be educated – and marketed.

"In my view the fact that the global community regards us in this light is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

Matthew Russell
Matthew Russell

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